Getting Your Ex Back

How Can You *Effectively* Get Fix the Relationship and make things that way they used to be?

To get back your ex, they need to want to be gotten back. That's an awkward sentence but my point is that, until they want to be with you, nothing you do is going to help you get back together.

Further, unless they want to be with you, any attempt on your part to encourage them to come back is actually going to drive them further away. For example, if you were to write a romantic poem with the intention of softening their heart, they are likely to interpret your poetry as needy and it will repel them making getting them back less likely. I could go on with more examples, put this is probably pretty intuitively true to you... especially if you've tried something similar and didn't get the reaction you expected.

To summarize this phenomena let's say that the harder you push to get your ex back, the harder they resist getting back together. In my book, I call this the "push and pull." If they don't want to get back together, when you "push" them to get back together, they "pull" further away. The more attempts you make, the more distance there is between the two of you, and the less likely you are to get back together.

The common ideas that people have about getting back an ex involve heavy "pushing." Writing notes, using reason and logic, giving gifts, explaining your love for them, and acting depressed about the break up, are all going to force your ex to "pull" back. Using these methods is like shooting yourself in the foot. The intention is well-meaning but it will backfire on you.

Fortunately, there is a way to sidestep the "push and pull." The push and pull is the result of your ex having low level of attraction and desire to be with you. Only by raising this level of attraction will you be able to disable the pattern.

But, raising attraction is a difficult, complex thing to do - even when two people are together.

There are some very specific things that you can do to get back with your ex but they don't involve any of the commonly used approaches. Instead, the focus is on raising attraction so that the desire to be with you is there. Once you are at this point, getting back together is a natural, easy thing to do.

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