10 Most Common Excuses for Break ups
and the *Real* Reason People Break up.

These are the reasons people give for wanting to break up:

1. "Differences in opinion."

2. "It's not you, it's me."

3. "I've met someone else."

4. "We are young. We should meet other people. (I'm bored.)"

5. "I can't do this anymore."

6. "We fight too much."

7. "I'm just not happy like I used to be."

8. "I need to move and don't want to do long distance."

9. "We are incompatible."

10. "I feel like we are moving too fast."

What do all of these reasons have in common?

They make it sound as if "we must break up" because of such and such reason - fighting, existential problems, moving, etc. - when, in actuality, a break up doesn't necessarily have to happen at all.

You don't have to break up because one of you is moving. You don't have to break up because there are differences in opinion. If one of you isn't happy, then you can work on it. If you are fighting too much, you can get into couples therapy and work out the problems.

So, these aren't the real reasons why people break up.

People break up for one reason... and one reason only. People resist this idea more than any other... probably because it is difficult to accept.

Here it is:

People break up because there is a loss of attraction.

Look at it this way... if someone has a red hot attraction for someone they will overcome any obstacle standing in their way in order to be with that person.

But, as attraction wanes, as it often does, obstacles that would normally be hurdled without a second thought seem more formidable. Eventually, when their level of attraction dips low enough, a person won't be willing to overcome the obstacles and that is when they will point to that obstacle and say "This is why we must break up."

I hope that makes sense to you.

So, just to be clear and summarize: Break ups happen because their is a loss of attraction.

This means that the only logical path to getting back together with your ex is to increase attraction.

If you are able to do that, obstacles that he or she pointed to as impossible to overcome will fade and become insignificant in comparison to the thought of losing you.

When a person feels this way about another, breakups just don't happen.

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