I get a few different types of questions that all center on interpreting an ex’s behavior:
“My ex wrote me an email the other day, what does that mean?”
“My ex girlfriend texted me last night, do you think she wants to get back together with me?”
“My boyfriend has been calling me pretty often, do you think he is interested in getting back together?”
Unfortunately, the nature of relationships is so complicated that there really isn’t anything definitive that I am able to tell you or anyone else about the correct interpretation of a certain behavior. Does it seem like a positive thing that your ex is contacting you? Sure, it seems positive but that’s obvious. The exact meaning of that action is known only to him or her … and maybe not even to them.
Besides, it really doesn’t matter why your ex did something or what it means. If you want to get back with your ex then you should be focused on pursuing that end *** . It would be helpful to know if they want to be with you but if you are serious about being with them then you’ll have to take steps on faith alone. Trying to read into their behavior will only leave you confused and may lead you to make assumptions that aren’t true. It’s best to just focus on working the plan in my book about getting back together with an ex.
[*** Now, of course, this doesn't mean that you should ignore blatant signals that they DON'T want to be with you. If your ex makes it inmistakeably clear that they don't want anything to do with you then you should respect that. The overwhelming majority of the time, I am contacted by men and women who are wanting to know if something their ex did is a positive sign and that is the audience I am writing to. I'm including this disclaimer so someone can't use what I'm saying in this article to stalk or harass their ex.]
My boyfriend broke up with me a couple days ago because we were fighting alot about petty things and i was very needy for attention and would even try to keep him from his friends so we could hang out. He says he still likes me alot to his friends and has asked if we should go back out but they say no. He also says he still loves me, so i dont get why we couldnt try and make it work. but anyway Since the break up ive thought about nothing but him and i cant stop myself from cying. Im never hungry anymore and i dont want to talk to anyone but him, but when we do talk, i cant cause i feel like crying so we have vague conversations if not any. I cant live like this its torture. What could i do to get him back?
me and my boyfriend Jahmall have broke up for 4 years now. The thing is that I still have strong feelings for him. He goes around telling everyone that we are just friends. I want to be more than friends. The reason why we broke up was because I never use to treat him the right way. I never let him kiss or hug me. I guess I was to nervous. But anyways I want him back I love him I think about him all the time.. Please help me What should I do?????
I BROKE UP WITH MY BOY FRIEND I COUPLE WEEEKS AGO AND I CANT GET HIM OUT OF MY HEAD I LOVE HIM AND I JUST WANT TO KISS HIM BUT I DONT THINK HE WANTS ME BACK BUT THE THINGS IS HE WAS AFRIAND TO HAVE A GIRL FRIEND HE WOULD BARLY HOLOD MY HAND AND BARLIY HUG ME AND HE BARLY TOLD EM HE LOVED ME. SO I JUST BROKE THE ICE I WANT HIM BACK I LOVE HIM WHAT SOULD I DO!!!!!!!!!!
I am so confused. I am a lesbian woman who recently broke up with a woman I shared a relationship for 3 years. I still love her and she say’s she still loves me. However she does not want the relationship, and that we can only be friends. I have said to her that I cannot have a friendship with her, due to the fact that I am still in love with her…seeing her date other women would just destroy me. We have broken up in the past and I have managed to keep my distance from her, only to have her contact me and make up. When I stay away, not bother her, she either e-mails or calls me. Our problems stem from her inability to compromise, yet I do love her. What shall I do?
My girlfriend just broke up with me a couple of days ago. I know that most relationships are complicated but mine might take the cake. We dated for over a year and during that time we’ve had good times and bad.(more good than bad tho)She broke up with me saying that she wasn’t commited enough and that she was afraid of cheating on me again. I told her it didn’t matter to me and we could work it out.(granted I cheated on her and she took me back)
I know that we are meant for eachother and that if we just worked on it, it would work. I dont want to hear that I should move on, I just want to know what I should do to get her back.
i don`t know
i am crying
I am hurt
I know that asking this question on your web site might be unethical but I guess my lady friend is screwing on me. You know, getting home late from the job, going outside with the lady friends all the time. Rinsing the garments as soon as she gets home. We don’t even sleep together anymore Do you hombres feature any leads as to how I could learn the truth?