If you want to get back together with your ex, how you react and what you say after the break up is very important. Unfortunately, many people will say or do the wrong thing simply because they are so caught up in emotion. Of course, it’s understandable. Few events are so profoundly emotional as someone you love ending your relationship with them. It hurts.
But, what can you say or do now to improve your chances of getting them back?
Before we answer that question, let’s first talk about what you definitely should not do:
- Don’t get angry and attack them.
- Don’t argue with them about why you should stay together.
- Don’t try to make them feel guilty by acting depressed.
These three things are very tempting to do and most people typically resort to one or more of these three tactics. However, they are generally ineffective. By attacking your ex, you only confirm he or she made the right decision by breaking up with you. By arguing with them, you force them to argue back thereby making them come up with more reasons why you two shouldn’t be together thereby cementing the decision. Trying to make them feel guilty for breaking up with you only makes you seem weak and therefore unattractive.
Avoid those three approaches to getting them back like the plague – they are ineffective and, worse, will do more damage to the relationship.
So what SHOULD you do?
You should react maturely. It won’t feel as satisfying as yelling and screaming, it won’t make you feel like you’ve made any progress, and it won’t make them come running back into your arms.
When they end the relationship and you say something mature – something along the lines of, “I respect your decision. I wish it wasn’t the case, but I understand” – you plant a seed. They think “Wow, he’s taking it pretty well. That’s better than I expected.”
You earn their respect by saying that. You move up a couple notches. You become more attractive to them improving your chances of getting them back later on. Once you’ve left things that way, it is time to begin using my 30 day plan for getting them back. In that plan, I’ll give you a step-by-step plan you can follow to repair the relationship and get them back.